I am of the opinion that unconditionally loving yourself is necessary to maneuvering effectively
through this world.
The faces and symptoms of low self-esteem can be different depending on who you are. I’ve seen
people downsize their lives to what they think about themselves. In spite of all the praying and
believing, the manifestation of God’s promises of healing, provision and deliverance isn’t evident
in their daily lives. If this is you, you might be missing the key component of confidence to your
faith.
Loving yourself is a required condition for enhancing your confidence, building self-esteem,
and transforming your mindset. Moreover, you should love yourself because God does. If he loves
you unconditionally, then who are you to object? I tell you this, one of the worst things you could
ever do is think that God doesn’t love you. Thoughts like these have easier access when you are
wallowing in self-pity wondering why you are going through.
The quality of your life is directly associated with how you see and feel about yourself. Of
course you must make some changes and improvements from time to time, but in this life journey,
self-love will take you far and wide beyond what anyone else can do for you. The truth of the
matter is, you are the only person who can change your outlook about yourself. When I
discovered this, I was set free. I’ve learned to love myself. I don’t feel limited, burdened or held
back by a poor self-image.
I so much want you to get this. I’ve seen too many of my sisters barricaded behind a poor self-
image. They have lost their own power and identity—some of them have been impacted by the
perspective of their influential mate or boss. These sisters have put their goals and dreams on the
shelf because they feeling lesser than them. As I write this today, my heart cries because I know
that low self-esteem and lack of confidence is nothing more than a belief and perception. No one
can control how you feel about yourself without your permission. Now, life happens and we can
feel the sting of hateful words and mis-guided opinions. But you are an overcomer and you have
the ability to overcome evil with good because the love of God is shed abroad in your heart by the
Holy Ghost. (See Romans 12:21 and 5:5). I want to help you to break free and move out into where
God would have you right now.
How do you learn to love yourself? Begin by honoring yourself. Be the guest of honor at
your own life’s party. Let go of what you thought you should be. Let go of what others have wanted
you to be and instead focus on becoming what God designed you to be. The success and influence
of others doesn't lie in giving up your dreams. Handing over the responsibility for your life and
happiness to another is a false sense of security. Your purpose isn't "out there" and it isn't
negotiable. It lies within you. All you have to do is wake it up. Every time one door closes, another
one will soon open. Seize the opportunity to improve any short-comings by making adjustments,
gaining more information and working smarter. The more you invest in yourself, the more
confident you will become.
Did you know that one of the characteristics of a confident woman who loves herself is she doesn’t
let her feelings dictate how she dresses? Surveys say bright colors can put you in a cheerful mood.
I tend to agree. Colors are powerful. And when you are looking your best, you will feel your best.
You know that I encourage journaling so get a journal and list daily what you love about yourself.
Record your most memorable achievements, special compliments given by others, special
moments that made you feel great and expect your tragedies to become your trophies. God is
looking at something in you that others can't see.
And by the way, you have a partner. The Holy Spirit is the most valuable asset in the life of a
Believer. He is your invisible partner who has been sent to be your Intercessor, Advocate,
Strengthener, Counselor, Comforter and Standby (See John 14:16, AMP). You must acknowledge
his presence in your life by placing your trust and confidence in him. Still, as in any relationship,
you cannot build trust unless you spend time together. Therefore, purpose in your heart to spend
time with Him in prayer; fellowship with Him in worship; and get to know Him by reading the
Word. You will get to know love, because God is love (1 John 4:8).
No matter what is going on in your life, Christ is with you. Know beyond the shadow of a doubt He
loves you, and He is with you because He wants to be. If you find there is something in the way,
talk it over with Him and clear it up with Him.
Say this out loud with bold confidence: God is love! God loves me! I love me! Now each time
something rises up its ugly head to persuade you otherwise, repeat those three statements.
If this article has been a blessing to you, I would love to hear from you. Contact me at
dmurphy@eewmagazine.com.
through this world.
The faces and symptoms of low self-esteem can be different depending on who you are. I’ve seen
people downsize their lives to what they think about themselves. In spite of all the praying and
believing, the manifestation of God’s promises of healing, provision and deliverance isn’t evident
in their daily lives. If this is you, you might be missing the key component of confidence to your
faith.
Loving yourself is a required condition for enhancing your confidence, building self-esteem,
and transforming your mindset. Moreover, you should love yourself because God does. If he loves
you unconditionally, then who are you to object? I tell you this, one of the worst things you could
ever do is think that God doesn’t love you. Thoughts like these have easier access when you are
wallowing in self-pity wondering why you are going through.
The quality of your life is directly associated with how you see and feel about yourself. Of
course you must make some changes and improvements from time to time, but in this life journey,
self-love will take you far and wide beyond what anyone else can do for you. The truth of the
matter is, you are the only person who can change your outlook about yourself. When I
discovered this, I was set free. I’ve learned to love myself. I don’t feel limited, burdened or held
back by a poor self-image.
I so much want you to get this. I’ve seen too many of my sisters barricaded behind a poor self-
image. They have lost their own power and identity—some of them have been impacted by the
perspective of their influential mate or boss. These sisters have put their goals and dreams on the
shelf because they feeling lesser than them. As I write this today, my heart cries because I know
that low self-esteem and lack of confidence is nothing more than a belief and perception. No one
can control how you feel about yourself without your permission. Now, life happens and we can
feel the sting of hateful words and mis-guided opinions. But you are an overcomer and you have
the ability to overcome evil with good because the love of God is shed abroad in your heart by the
Holy Ghost. (See Romans 12:21 and 5:5). I want to help you to break free and move out into where
God would have you right now.
How do you learn to love yourself? Begin by honoring yourself. Be the guest of honor at
your own life’s party. Let go of what you thought you should be. Let go of what others have wanted
you to be and instead focus on becoming what God designed you to be. The success and influence
of others doesn't lie in giving up your dreams. Handing over the responsibility for your life and
happiness to another is a false sense of security. Your purpose isn't "out there" and it isn't
negotiable. It lies within you. All you have to do is wake it up. Every time one door closes, another
one will soon open. Seize the opportunity to improve any short-comings by making adjustments,
gaining more information and working smarter. The more you invest in yourself, the more
confident you will become.
Did you know that one of the characteristics of a confident woman who loves herself is she doesn’t
let her feelings dictate how she dresses? Surveys say bright colors can put you in a cheerful mood.
I tend to agree. Colors are powerful. And when you are looking your best, you will feel your best.
You know that I encourage journaling so get a journal and list daily what you love about yourself.
Record your most memorable achievements, special compliments given by others, special
moments that made you feel great and expect your tragedies to become your trophies. God is
looking at something in you that others can't see.
And by the way, you have a partner. The Holy Spirit is the most valuable asset in the life of a
Believer. He is your invisible partner who has been sent to be your Intercessor, Advocate,
Strengthener, Counselor, Comforter and Standby (See John 14:16, AMP). You must acknowledge
his presence in your life by placing your trust and confidence in him. Still, as in any relationship,
you cannot build trust unless you spend time together. Therefore, purpose in your heart to spend
time with Him in prayer; fellowship with Him in worship; and get to know Him by reading the
Word. You will get to know love, because God is love (1 John 4:8).
No matter what is going on in your life, Christ is with you. Know beyond the shadow of a doubt He
loves you, and He is with you because He wants to be. If you find there is something in the way,
talk it over with Him and clear it up with Him.
Say this out loud with bold confidence: God is love! God loves me! I love me! Now each time
something rises up its ugly head to persuade you otherwise, repeat those three statements.
If this article has been a blessing to you, I would love to hear from you. Contact me at
dmurphy@eewmagazine.com.
Dr. Deana Murphy passionately supports the
success of women helping them to design
their best life. Creator and visionary of the
LivingDesigns™ brand, Deana is an absolute
expert on life design and your Go-to-Resource
for promoting empowering life makeovers,
whether you seek one-on-one consulting,
group trainings, virtual workshops or live
lifestyle makeover events.
Visit Dr. Deana at deanamurphyglobal.com
Email Deana:
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success of women helping them to design
their best life. Creator and visionary of the
LivingDesigns™ brand, Deana is an absolute
expert on life design and your Go-to-Resource
for promoting empowering life makeovers,
whether you seek one-on-one consulting,
group trainings, virtual workshops or live
lifestyle makeover events.
Visit Dr. Deana at deanamurphyglobal.com
Email Deana:
dmurphy@eewmagazine.com
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I used to get caught up in a whirlwind cycle of
insecurity and timidity each time someone
offered me their unsolicited opinion about
me or about something I was doing. Whether
they knew it or not, it sent me diving into a
sea of self-pity. Often I would ask myself,
“What’s wrong with me?” always blaming
myself and thinking that everything is my
fault. I figured the issue must have been with
me because if not, people wouldn’t continue
to make comments about what I couldn’t or
shouldn’t do. But one day I finally woke up
and got a handle on who I am.
If you focus on looking for something wrong,
you will find it. It’s just as easy to look for all
the right things, and that’s what I began to do.
There’s a world out there full of self-hatred,
self-doubt and fear, but in this world loving
yourself is the most novel and energizing
thing you can do.
insecurity and timidity each time someone
offered me their unsolicited opinion about
me or about something I was doing. Whether
they knew it or not, it sent me diving into a
sea of self-pity. Often I would ask myself,
“What’s wrong with me?” always blaming
myself and thinking that everything is my
fault. I figured the issue must have been with
me because if not, people wouldn’t continue
to make comments about what I couldn’t or
shouldn’t do. But one day I finally woke up
and got a handle on who I am.
If you focus on looking for something wrong,
you will find it. It’s just as easy to look for all
the right things, and that’s what I began to do.
There’s a world out there full of self-hatred,
self-doubt and fear, but in this world loving
yourself is the most novel and energizing
thing you can do.
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