It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been single or waiting for your husband-to-be. If you allow
that evil spirit named “Jealousy” to enter in, you can potentially ruin a great friendship. Not
only that, but bitterness and resentment brings out the worst in all of us.
How can we expect to experience pure love when our perspective is so clouded by envy and
malice?
There’s a reason why jealousy is so evil. It causes people to do and say some of the most hurtful
things- all because they are envious of something they want, but don’t have. Romans 12:15a
says, “Rejoice with those who rejoice.” And celebrating a loved one who has finally found their
mate for life, is the perfect opportunity to obey scripture.
Sometimes, we have do things out of reverence for God, simply because it is the right thing to
do, and not because our flesh wants to. The ultimate truth is this, God is watching you very
carefully.
Before he can bless you with mate, He is looking to see how you respond to the happiness of
others. One of the Bible's greatest commandments is found in Mark 12:31, which is, "Love your
neighbor as yourself." We are commanded to love each other, and according to 1 Corinthians
13:4, “...love does not envy.”
So, the next time you’re found putting on another bridesmaid dress, purchasing a gift from a
bridal registry, and adorning yourself for another wedding, remember this. The most beautiful
adornment is not found on the outside. Rather, it is the hidden man of the heart that radiates
beauty. As long as the true love of Christ lives inside, the kindness, patience, and virtue it takes
to wait on the Lord with joy, will be present with you always.
How do you wait with a good attitude? By exercising the Fruit of the Spirit found in Galatians
5:22-23. When you do that, helping someone else enjoy their special day to the fullest will be a
pleasure. And when your wedding day comes around, you will be showered with the same love
you have sown into the lives of others.
Did today's article speak to you in some way? Reach out to Kennisha and let her know at
khill@eewmagazine.com.
that evil spirit named “Jealousy” to enter in, you can potentially ruin a great friendship. Not
only that, but bitterness and resentment brings out the worst in all of us.
How can we expect to experience pure love when our perspective is so clouded by envy and
malice?
There’s a reason why jealousy is so evil. It causes people to do and say some of the most hurtful
things- all because they are envious of something they want, but don’t have. Romans 12:15a
says, “Rejoice with those who rejoice.” And celebrating a loved one who has finally found their
mate for life, is the perfect opportunity to obey scripture.
Sometimes, we have do things out of reverence for God, simply because it is the right thing to
do, and not because our flesh wants to. The ultimate truth is this, God is watching you very
carefully.
Before he can bless you with mate, He is looking to see how you respond to the happiness of
others. One of the Bible's greatest commandments is found in Mark 12:31, which is, "Love your
neighbor as yourself." We are commanded to love each other, and according to 1 Corinthians
13:4, “...love does not envy.”
So, the next time you’re found putting on another bridesmaid dress, purchasing a gift from a
bridal registry, and adorning yourself for another wedding, remember this. The most beautiful
adornment is not found on the outside. Rather, it is the hidden man of the heart that radiates
beauty. As long as the true love of Christ lives inside, the kindness, patience, and virtue it takes
to wait on the Lord with joy, will be present with you always.
How do you wait with a good attitude? By exercising the Fruit of the Spirit found in Galatians
5:22-23. When you do that, helping someone else enjoy their special day to the fullest will be a
pleasure. And when your wedding day comes around, you will be showered with the same love
you have sown into the lives of others.
Did today's article speak to you in some way? Reach out to Kennisha and let her know at
khill@eewmagazine.com.
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And when my day finally came around, that's
exactly the kind of love I expected from my
unmarried friends, and family. Since that time,
God has taught me some very powerful lessons
about waiting with joy, and being genuinely
happy for others.
One of the most important things you can do is
focus on your love for that person, and
not your own desire to be in their shoes. You
see, when you begin coveting something
someone else has, you introduce jealousy,
envy, and even anger into the equation. And the
Bible says in James 1:20, "Human anger does
not produce the righteousness God desires."
exactly the kind of love I expected from my
unmarried friends, and family. Since that time,
God has taught me some very powerful lessons
about waiting with joy, and being genuinely
happy for others.
One of the most important things you can do is
focus on your love for that person, and
not your own desire to be in their shoes. You
see, when you begin coveting something
someone else has, you introduce jealousy,
envy, and even anger into the equation. And the
Bible says in James 1:20, "Human anger does
not produce the righteousness God desires."
For some singles, it can be a challenge, especially if they feel like they're ready to say "I do," but
haven't yet landed a suitable mate. It can be a bit disheartening. At least it was for me.
You see, I was the last of my closest friends to get married. When a friend of mine, who I had
been friends with for over fifteen years, met her husband, I knew what was about to happen. It
wasn’t going to be long before we would be discussing her wedding plans, picking out her dress,
bridesmaids dresses, and jewelry. I was very happy for her, because like me, she saw several of
our other friends get married, while patiently praying and waiting her turn.
At the same time, a part of me wanted to host my own pity party. I'm not proud of it, but I even
though of finding a man (any man), so he could magically appear at her wedding as my date. At
the time, I was working through my own personal heartache from previous failed relationships.
I knew this was my dear friend's big moment, her big day. But, my big issues were lurking. Still,
as her best friend, I had to put my selfish thoughts aside and genuinely be there as a sister to her.
And so I did.
One of the things that helped me was coming to the realization that it wasn't about me. Honestly,
that was the hardest part, because I had real feelings, expectations, and hopes for a special
wedding day of my very own. But instead of wallowing in pity, I took a few deep breaths, let
those thoughts go, and focused on the incredible life-changing moment that my girl was about to
have. I took part in her joy, instead of just being a part of her wedding.
haven't yet landed a suitable mate. It can be a bit disheartening. At least it was for me.
You see, I was the last of my closest friends to get married. When a friend of mine, who I had
been friends with for over fifteen years, met her husband, I knew what was about to happen. It
wasn’t going to be long before we would be discussing her wedding plans, picking out her dress,
bridesmaids dresses, and jewelry. I was very happy for her, because like me, she saw several of
our other friends get married, while patiently praying and waiting her turn.
At the same time, a part of me wanted to host my own pity party. I'm not proud of it, but I even
though of finding a man (any man), so he could magically appear at her wedding as my date. At
the time, I was working through my own personal heartache from previous failed relationships.
I knew this was my dear friend's big moment, her big day. But, my big issues were lurking. Still,
as her best friend, I had to put my selfish thoughts aside and genuinely be there as a sister to her.
And so I did.
One of the things that helped me was coming to the realization that it wasn't about me. Honestly,
that was the hardest part, because I had real feelings, expectations, and hopes for a special
wedding day of my very own. But instead of wallowing in pity, I took a few deep breaths, let
those thoughts go, and focused on the incredible life-changing moment that my girl was about to
have. I took part in her joy, instead of just being a part of her wedding.
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lives in Dallas, Texas and is happily
married with two children. Learn more by
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Jumping the Broom has hit theaters just in
time to kick off wedding season. Yep.
Another spring has arrived and soon you'll
be getting dressed, tightening your pearls
and beautifying your self for another
wedding. The only thing is, if you're still
single, the veil won't be on your head. And
depending on who's getting hitched, you may
even be asked to march down the aisle as a
bridesmaid, again.
So how do you prepare yourself to celebrate
that beautiful wedding that’s for your
beautiful friend or family member?
time to kick off wedding season. Yep.
Another spring has arrived and soon you'll
be getting dressed, tightening your pearls
and beautifying your self for another
wedding. The only thing is, if you're still
single, the veil won't be on your head. And
depending on who's getting hitched, you may
even be asked to march down the aisle as a
bridesmaid, again.
So how do you prepare yourself to celebrate
that beautiful wedding that’s for your
beautiful friend or family member?
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