It took a long time for me to let go of a lot of things I went through, but when I allowed God to
truly heal me, once He knew I was ready, my husband came strolling into my life all the way
from Dallas, Texas.
If you are at that very frustrating point where you desire to be married someday, but feel like it
will never happen, I want you to let go of the discouragement and hold on to hope.
Let me share a few things to help you as you are embracing hope and ridding yourself of
discouragement.
1. Be willing to heed sound advice: As I said earlier, hearing he same things time and again
can be frustrating. Still, ask God to open your heart to receiving sound advice that’s meant just
for you! God will send that very relevant word that will sustain and encourage, not discourage,
you. He knows exactly what will touch your heart and help you in a unique way.
2. Don't view dating through a worldly lens: God's way and the world's way are
completely opposed. Dating ideas that are not rooted in the word of the Lord are unhealthy for
the believing woman waiting for her mate. Those of us who trust and have hope in Christ, should
lean on His word that says "If we delight in the Lord, he will give us the desires of our hearts."
(Psalm 37:4) God's word is true and He is faithful. As you begin desiring Him above all else,
those other things you want will be added to you (See Matthew 6:33).
3. Don't mourn what isn't mean to be: I know what it's like to have interest in someone
who says such great things to you, but then decides to just be friends. As I shared earlier, that
happened to me right before my husband came along. I was madly in LOVE with this guy and he
insisted on remaining platonic. I was devastated. But do you know what God taught me about
that? He had someone better. See, if a man isn't meant for you, there is no need to mourn over
him. Instead, thank God for showing you that he wasn't the one.
4. Your husband will love you for who you are: Please feel me here. I know what it feels
like to feel rejected because you feel like all men are flocking to a certain type of woman. I
personally battled insecurities for a long time. If it wasn't my small size, it was my acne-prone
skin. I could really go on and on about this. When I met my husband, he loved and embraced me
for exactly who I am. Even today he prefers me without make-up because he loves my natural
skin. He constantly lifts me up and tells me I'm beautiful. And YOU are beautiful. When God
sends the right one along, he will love every single part of you.
If it is truly a desire of yours to be married, don't grow weary. Trust God, seek Him, and keep
moving forward. Don't doubt that the Lord can and will do it. I know it he did it for me, trust me,
he can do it for you too.
Did today's article speak to you in some way? Reach out to Kennisha and let her know at
khill@eewmagazine.com.
truly heal me, once He knew I was ready, my husband came strolling into my life all the way
from Dallas, Texas.
If you are at that very frustrating point where you desire to be married someday, but feel like it
will never happen, I want you to let go of the discouragement and hold on to hope.
Let me share a few things to help you as you are embracing hope and ridding yourself of
discouragement.
1. Be willing to heed sound advice: As I said earlier, hearing he same things time and again
can be frustrating. Still, ask God to open your heart to receiving sound advice that’s meant just
for you! God will send that very relevant word that will sustain and encourage, not discourage,
you. He knows exactly what will touch your heart and help you in a unique way.
2. Don't view dating through a worldly lens: God's way and the world's way are
completely opposed. Dating ideas that are not rooted in the word of the Lord are unhealthy for
the believing woman waiting for her mate. Those of us who trust and have hope in Christ, should
lean on His word that says "If we delight in the Lord, he will give us the desires of our hearts."
(Psalm 37:4) God's word is true and He is faithful. As you begin desiring Him above all else,
those other things you want will be added to you (See Matthew 6:33).
3. Don't mourn what isn't mean to be: I know what it's like to have interest in someone
who says such great things to you, but then decides to just be friends. As I shared earlier, that
happened to me right before my husband came along. I was madly in LOVE with this guy and he
insisted on remaining platonic. I was devastated. But do you know what God taught me about
that? He had someone better. See, if a man isn't meant for you, there is no need to mourn over
him. Instead, thank God for showing you that he wasn't the one.
4. Your husband will love you for who you are: Please feel me here. I know what it feels
like to feel rejected because you feel like all men are flocking to a certain type of woman. I
personally battled insecurities for a long time. If it wasn't my small size, it was my acne-prone
skin. I could really go on and on about this. When I met my husband, he loved and embraced me
for exactly who I am. Even today he prefers me without make-up because he loves my natural
skin. He constantly lifts me up and tells me I'm beautiful. And YOU are beautiful. When God
sends the right one along, he will love every single part of you.
If it is truly a desire of yours to be married, don't grow weary. Trust God, seek Him, and keep
moving forward. Don't doubt that the Lord can and will do it. I know it he did it for me, trust me,
he can do it for you too.
Did today's article speak to you in some way? Reach out to Kennisha and let her know at
khill@eewmagazine.com.
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With insane amounts of alone time, God began
to speak to me. I felt like I didn't have anybody
else in the world, but God. I should have been
running to Him in the first place. Finally, I
prayed, studied the scripture and clung to the
verse that said, "A single person cares for the
things of the Lord, how he may please God."
Instead of finding ways to stay busy and
pretending not to care about a relationship, my
heart really began to change.
I truly devoted myself to seeking God more. I
discovered that I enjoyed getting closer to the
Lord.
to speak to me. I felt like I didn't have anybody
else in the world, but God. I should have been
running to Him in the first place. Finally, I
prayed, studied the scripture and clung to the
verse that said, "A single person cares for the
things of the Lord, how he may please God."
Instead of finding ways to stay busy and
pretending not to care about a relationship, my
heart really began to change.
I truly devoted myself to seeking God more. I
discovered that I enjoyed getting closer to the
Lord.
embraced hopelessness as my new companion. I felt like I was playing a game of "He Loves Me...
He Loves Me Not," with only a few more petals left to pluck. And frankly, I was tired of
wondering whether the guy of my dreams would love me or not.
I know there are other single women who can relate to my story.
A few weeks ago, I wrote an article entitled “Pray For Your Future Husband Now,” and received
a great response. In fact, one EEW reader connected with me and shared how she felt hopeless.
She said, “I have tried, fell and got back up, tried again, fell and got back up. It’s the truth that I
need to accept and live with…No one wants to be with me. Plain and simple.”
My heart instantly ached after reading that. I looked retrospectively at my journey as a single
woman. I recall those lonely moments when I was sick and tired of being sick and tired, and fed
up with hearing the same things over and over again: pray, wait, believe, trust, and try practical
things—none of which seemed to work. Go here. Go there. Act like this. Act like that. Position
yourself. You’re not praying enough. Yada Yada Yada.
To add insult to injury, I saw the men out there chasing “model-type” women with flawless skin
and perfect figures. Since I didn't fit that mold, my confidence was shaken. I became disgusted
with the entire dating scene. I was literally repulsed by it.
My romantic misadventures wore me down.
I finally stopped fighting for love and “accepted” that a happy marriage just was not meant for
me. On to Plan B I went. I was going to be a career-focused woman who shopped til I dropped,
and got my occasional "romantic fix" by watching soppy chick flicks. This later became a
depressing exercise.
He Loves Me Not," with only a few more petals left to pluck. And frankly, I was tired of
wondering whether the guy of my dreams would love me or not.
I know there are other single women who can relate to my story.
A few weeks ago, I wrote an article entitled “Pray For Your Future Husband Now,” and received
a great response. In fact, one EEW reader connected with me and shared how she felt hopeless.
She said, “I have tried, fell and got back up, tried again, fell and got back up. It’s the truth that I
need to accept and live with…No one wants to be with me. Plain and simple.”
My heart instantly ached after reading that. I looked retrospectively at my journey as a single
woman. I recall those lonely moments when I was sick and tired of being sick and tired, and fed
up with hearing the same things over and over again: pray, wait, believe, trust, and try practical
things—none of which seemed to work. Go here. Go there. Act like this. Act like that. Position
yourself. You’re not praying enough. Yada Yada Yada.
To add insult to injury, I saw the men out there chasing “model-type” women with flawless skin
and perfect figures. Since I didn't fit that mold, my confidence was shaken. I became disgusted
with the entire dating scene. I was literally repulsed by it.
My romantic misadventures wore me down.
I finally stopped fighting for love and “accepted” that a happy marriage just was not meant for
me. On to Plan B I went. I was going to be a career-focused woman who shopped til I dropped,
and got my occasional "romantic fix" by watching soppy chick flicks. This later became a
depressing exercise.
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lives in Dallas, Texas and is happily
married with two children. Learn more by
visiting her website at kennishahill.com or
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Before I met my husband, I dated several
guys and things were going no where. I was
even unsuccessfully engaged once before,
and was promised a happy life with a man
who later lied and cheated. As a result of
that devastation, I couldn't pull myself up
out of my deep pit of despair. So my life
spiraled downward and sent me on what
seemed like a never-ending emotional roller
coaster ride. Tired of trying, I became
resigned not to even think about being in a
relationship anymore. The cycle of
frustration was too much. I had had enough.
So, I just did my thing, lived life, and
guys and things were going no where. I was
even unsuccessfully engaged once before,
and was promised a happy life with a man
who later lied and cheated. As a result of
that devastation, I couldn't pull myself up
out of my deep pit of despair. So my life
spiraled downward and sent me on what
seemed like a never-ending emotional roller
coaster ride. Tired of trying, I became
resigned not to even think about being in a
relationship anymore. The cycle of
frustration was too much. I had had enough.
So, I just did my thing, lived life, and
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